اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنِي بَارًّا بِوَالِدَيَّ وَارْزُقْنِي رِضَاهُمَا وَأَعِنِّي عَلَى خِدْمَتِهِمَا بِمَا يُرْضِيكَ عَنِّي
Allahummaj'alni barran biwalidayya warzuqni ridahuma wa a'inni 'ala khidmatihima bima yurdika 'anni
O Allah, make me dutiful to my parents, grant me their pleasure, and help me serve them in a way that pleases You.
Birr (dutifulness) is the Quran's command — "And We have enjoined upon man birr toward his parents" (29:8). Birr is more than respect; it is active, tender, consistent care — especially when they are elderly and dependent. The addition of "help me serve them in a way that pleases You" acknowledges two audiences: your parents and Allah. Sometimes what parents want and what Allah wants differ (if they call you to shirk, for example — Quran 31:15), but in all other matters, their pleasure IS Allah's pleasure. The Prophet ﷺ said: "The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the parents" (At-Tirmidhi 1899). This du'a asks for divine help because birr requires sabr — and sometimes you lose patience despite your love.
Related Du'as
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say: My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.
Sahihاللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْهُ لَهُ فَرَطًا وَذُخْرًا وَسَلَفًا وَأَجْرًا، اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْهُ شَفِيعًا لِوَالِدَيْهِ
O Allah, make this child a forerunner, a treasure stored, a predecessor, and a reward for them. O Allah, make this child an intercessor for their parents.
Sahihإِذَا مَاتَ الْإِنْسَانُ انْقَطَعَ عَنْهُ عَمَلُهُ إِلَّا مِنْ ثَلَاثَةٍ: إِلَّا مِنْ صَدَقَةٍ جَارِيَةٍ أَوْ عِلْمٍ يُنْتَفَعُ بِهِ أَوْ وَلَدٍ صَالِحٍ يَدْعُو لَهُ
When a person dies, his deeds come to an end except for three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge, or a righteous child who prays for him.
Sahihاللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لَهُ وَارْحَمْهُ وَعَافِهِ وَاعْفُ عَنْهُ وَأَكْرِمْ نُزُلَهُ وَوَسِّعْ مُدْخَلَهُ وَاغْسِلْهُ بِالْمَاءِ وَالثَّلْجِ وَالْبَرَدِ وَنَقِّهِ مِنَ الذُّنُوبِ وَالْخَطَايَا كَمَا يُنَقَّى الثَّوْبُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الدَّنَسِ وَأَبْدِلْهُ دَارًا خَيْرًا مِنْ دَارِهِ وَأَهْلًا خَيْرًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَزَوْجًا خَيْرًا مِنْ زَوْجِهِ وَأَدْخِلْهُ الْجَنَّةَ وَأَعِذْهُ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ وَعَذَابِ النَّارِ
O Allah, forgive him, have mercy on him, grant him well-being, pardon him, honor his reception, expand his entrance, and wash him with water, snow, and hail. Cleanse him of sins and wrongdoings as a white garment is cleansed of filth. Grant him an abode better than his home, a family better than his family, and a spouse better than his spouse. Admit him to Paradise and protect him from the punishment of the grave and the torment of the Fire.
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